A scenario that all parents encounter at some point played out in the Skiles household this morning. Oliver woke up complaining that he didn't feel good.
Josh and I both looked at each other with the same "Oh Shit" look. It's a weekday and we both have a busy day of work ahead. The following thoughts then start bouncing around in your mind...
"Is he faking?"
"Maybe he is just tired. Let's try and goof around with him to see if he perks up."
"He looks fine, no fever, he is just faking."
"It could just be allergies, that isn't contagious."
"Should I send him to school and see what happens?"
"We don't even know anyone that is sick."
"We need to get our flu shot."
After our interrogation, we determined that he was ok. He was joking around periodically before he remembered that he was supposed to be sick. Unfortunately for us, Oliver is now old enough to speak and wasn't going to give up easily.
So I had an impromptu "take your kid to work day". He looks terribly ill doesn't he??? <eye roll>
Recently I have been struggling to find a balance between work and family. I am putting an incrediable amount of effort into my business and I love doing it, but I have a severe case of "Mom Guilt".
Oliver actually said one night, "Mom all you do is work, work, work. You never play with me." Hearing that is devastating for any Mom. I never want my children to look back on their childhood and think that I didn't give them enough attention.
I know that Dad's also have the same guilty feeling. Josh runs two business's and travels a lot in the winter. I know he struggles with the moments he misses too. However, I feel our society is way more judgemental of a Mom that wants to work and provide for her family.
To be honest, our society is way more judgemental of women in general. Don't think for a minute it is only men judging us either. Women judging other women is common place and most often, more harsh.
Stay-at-home-moms judge working women for not having quality time with their children in early developement. Reversely, working women judge stay-at-home-moms because they think they have it so easy.
I LOVE my children but I like to work. I strongly feel that being a stay-at-home-mom is WAY more challenging then going to work.
I mean who wants to be looked at like this all day?! If you think her mad face is terrifying...just wait for her temper tantrums! I believe this was a result of me saying she couldn't have a third helping of fruit snacks.
In conclusion, Oliver's statement broke my heart and I am determined to find a good balance between work and family. I would love to hear recommendations if you have a similar story!
In the mean time, lets all just give each other a pat on the back for doing the best we can!